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Question: I care what others think of me and others say negative things about me and it hurts me. What can I do?

Answer: The Divine is supporting you always.You are so very loved and worthy of love. Ignore the naysayers, take nothing they say personally. They are lost little children throwing temper tantrums based on their fixed beliefs based on their own insecurities/fears. This is a Free Will density (the choice of Love or Fear) and if they are ignorant of Love, that is their choice. Love is the key to graduation. All we can do is show the way.

An example of this approach- Luke 23:2–32 "And they began to accuse him, saying, “We found this man misleading our nation and forbidding us to give tribute to Caesar, and saying that he himself is Christ, a king.” And Pilate asked him, “Are you the King of the Jews?” And he answered him, “You have said so.”....Jesus took nothing seriously that was untrue. It was their choice to accuse him of nonsense but he knew the real truth from God. So we are with our lives, we understand fear based choices are from unconscious autopilot reactions while Love is truth-based conscious action. Those people who are based in fear base everything on illusion, so there is nothing to take personal they say because it is illusion.

Here is the Buddha story similar to it. https://kintsugispace.com/anger-a-buddhist-story/

A modern approach is how Suzanne Giesemann says, "Isn't that interesting?" A complete detached neutral observer. It is their choice to say what they say and react as they do, but our choice is to ignore their fear and center ourselves in the loving truth within.

Basically centered in Love we become transparent to all that is not of Love. Fear passes right through us with no effect. I use this technique a lot as a grocery cashier. I look right through the angry customers to their inner little child hurting core. The angry customers complain "you should and you should that", "should" is an indicator of their fixed beliefs by the way which leads to their fear based temper tantrums, and I respond neutrally with love- I'm sorry that happened to you, let me see how I can help. Conscious love action not a reaction from fear.

This is a skill called discernment. If it resonates with love keep it, all else let it fall away. Initially filter all thoughts and feelings through the heart. Question yourself- Does it resonate with love or not? If it is love keep it. Else let it fall away.

Later once the heart fully opens [after lotus petals open of sacrifice (of lower self/ego), love (service to others) and knowledge (acquire spiritual knowledge)] it emits a powerful electro-magnetic field that silences the mind with its fears and judgments and there is only love and peace allowed in the fields. Thoughts are electric (mental body) and feelings are magnetic (emotional or astral body). The Fully Opened Heart has a higher spiritual frequency (from buddhic/atmic planes) that bathes the mental and emotional/astral body. Higher frequency energy always dissolves lower frequency energy. Basically the fires of love/spirit burn away all non-love debris (mental and emotional/astral body sheaths). This process happens in the bardo for people not ascending and later reincarnating but for people ascending this happens in the physical body while alive on physical Earth.

A quote- “The Heart (Love) is the key to leaving the matrix of separation and entering the Unity of God.” ~ My Higher Self (during a message to me during meditation)

A flower does not think of competing to the flower next to it.  It just blooms.

From the moment we are slapped on our newborn behinds, we are in constant competition. The prettiest baby.  The oldest twin.  The smartest student.  The fastest runner.  The first to graduate college.  The first to get married.  The first to have a baby.  The first to own a vacation house.  The most successful novelist.   The list goes on and on.

Even the most trivial of pursuits, like who can eat their dinner and get away from the table first or guess the exact amount of jelly beans in a jar are turned into a diehard competition.  Society is always watching, always judging and we are urged, cajoled, humiliated and even threatened to continue this bad yet widely acceptable behavior. 

If you were to channel-surf, you'd find that television networks thrive on competition. Their motives seem obvious from the aggressive food commercials, insurance commercials, game shows, survival shows, cooking shows, fashion shows, pageant shows--heck, even the cartoons pit characters against the other.

Despite what we’ve been taught, Life is not a race, it’s a journey.

If I were an alien visiting this planet, I might think that the human race is IN a race--not to love one another--but to win the title of "best", "biggest" or "most".  And we continue to perpetuate these actions as “normal”.  But at what cost?

Detractors would say there’s nothing wrong with a little "healthy" competition.  Trying to beat the other guy helps build character, it’s part of the human experience and challenges us to be better so that we might achieve the ultimate prize--that shiny brass ring or fatted calf or whatever we think should be our great reward for a job well done.

Derek Rydall, author of There’s No Business Like Soul Business, says that “when you align yourself with the principal of oneness, get out of the game of competition and into the flow of cooperation, you are in league with the intimate power of the Universe.” Rydall adds that competition has caused “more greed, violence, poverty and destruction than almost any other force on the planet.”

From what I’ve seen, competition impales one’s self-esteem.  (Kids who were always chosen last for playground games know exactly what I mean.)  It is the premise of wars and hate, but it also stems from fear, from believing that if we don’t compete, we will lose at this game of Life.  We won’t have enough.  There will be lack.  And we are dearly afraid of that.

Truth is, there is more than enough abundance for everybody, so why let fear get the best of us?

Let's get off this rivalry rollercoaster now and promote unity instead of duality!  Here are eight simple choices for writers who wish to be more mindful with their thoughts and words:

1)  Stop judging people--those you know and those you’ve only read about.  Accept them as they are. 

2)  Avoid watching anything on television which promotes competition.  If this means the only entertainment available is to write or read a book, well, why not?

3)  Teach your children not to judge, but to discern with an open heart.  Help them understand and accept the differences of others.  Everyone has something valuable to contribute.

4)  Choose your words wisely.  Write articles to build hope and offer positive solutions to your reader's problems.

5)  Abstain from people-bashing in articles, blogs and social media.

6)  Refuse to post book reviews which condemn or criticize an author's published work. 

7)  Bless your fellow writers and businesses and support the success of everyone.

8)  Reject all challenges to compete--just BLOOM!