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Dance! Inspiring Women and Men to BE LOVE

This is a wonderful message sent to us in PM that I asked Steve if we could have it in discussion for all to see as more members come in.

Inspired by: “... I ask that for a few moments you look within to find your
spirit at the center where all life has its existence, where neither masculine
nor feminine exist - the place where utter love patiently awaits to burst forth
if only we, women, let it.”

I answered:

Oh yes. Woman is love. The very essence of femininity is love as a response to
what happens in front of her. That is what inspires a man, will bring him to
life, make him go and do anything, absolutely anything.

And yes, women have been hurt. But that is just not an excuse to respond in any
other way - by being emotional, demanding, competing, or even critical. But yes,
it makes it much harder, I know, to respond as love. It takes a great woman to
love right through her pains, but isn't that what she wants to be?

In the same way, men have been hurt. In general they lost their sense of Purpose
and experience lack of appreciation. So, instead of connecting with their
deepest Purpose, they live for mundane gratification as a substitute for this
lack, like an addiction.

Now, while a man’s Purpose should be finding a way to manifest Love in this
world, a woman’s Aspiration should be to connect with a higher Purpose and allow
her love quality to support and inspire this manifesting.

Just as women have forgotten how to support men in the way they need most, men
have forgotten how to appreciate women for what they are: not sexually
desireable 'things', or emotinal troublemakers, but the Inspirors for what life
is all about by means of their spontaneous love responses. Always remember that
love cannot be understood or taught. We can only find it in ourselves. So a
woman’s task is to inspire with her responses. And if her man doesn’t get
inspired, she is with the wrong man and must take responsibility for that.

In the same way, a man should not remain with a woman who doesn’t want to live
for love, but gets stuck in her emotionality over and over. If it is not her way
to support her man with the love that she is, he is with the wrong woman.

Yes, men have forgotten to live for love and get distracted by ideas and sexual
experiences. He should know - or maybe first learn - the differences between
those, and then see and set the right priorities. But, yes, women have made the
same mistake. In this world dominated by not so refined masculine energies, they
have succumbed to the distorted masculine way of understanding love, and
mimicked it, thus even denying their own very love-essence. There can nothing be
more painful for a woman. But she has to face it, heal it, and find her ability
back to respond spontaneously as love. Receiving, appreciating, nurturing,
giving back inner beauty and happiness like a blooming flower, that is her
strength, her power, her gift.
In the same way men will have to find their purpose back, for the deep pain of
not having a purpose that is truly in line with Truth will forever keep haunting
them. They will have to start feeling they miss love, and get interested, and
experiment, and find out. And then they can link it to their masculinity, and
decide to live for it, even change the world with it. Directionality is his
strength!

Men devoted to live love is what we need. But they cannot do so without the
love-responses of women. Hence the saying that behind every good man, there is a
good woman. Indeed!

Just like men have to realize there is never a valid reason not to live for
love, women have to realize there is never a valid reason not to respond as
love.

Steve Noomen